“The most important thing a father can do for his children is love their mother”. (Theodore Hesburgh, American Priest)
I remember when I was a kid, I was excessively sensitive when my parents weren’t getting along. My immediate instinct was to reconcile them with each other, because only then I could feel secure again. I didn’t want their love to flow to me through two separate channels, that wasn’t good enough. It felt cheap and insufficient in comparison with what they could give me together – that complete and satisfying love which comes with an important message, “Look! Just like we love each other, we love you, just like we respect and forgive each other, we are going to respect and forgive you, just like we aren’t going to leave each other no matter what, we will never leave or betray you. We trust each other, and you can fully trust us”.
I believe my parents’ love for each other made me a better person. It made us best friends. I knew I could be open with them, because they were open with each other, and it wasn’t hurtful. Simply loving each other, they taught me more about life than any words could do.
My heart aches when I see parents who try their best to show love for their kids, and yet neglect their spouse. In fact, the very best thing parents can do for their children is value and cherish their own relationship above all others.
I hope this encourages you to at least give your spouse a hug and a warm smile today or think of something else that needs to be done to nourish your love for one another.